Single and so far loving it.
Today has been a rather interesting day. Aw hell, the last week has been rather interesting what with all the brouhaha going on in Wisconsin and elsewhere regarding Governor Walkers attempts to balance the budget and curtail the power of the unions at the same time. I have been tweeting a lot regarding this issue and anyone who is interested in that can see my tweets on Twitter (@drac65).
Today rather I read an interesting article on CNN.com of all places by CNN's own Jessica Ravitz. Her article is entitled "Why I'm not married (and it's not because I'm an angry slut)". In this article Miss Ravitz writes about a column posted on the Huffington Post by one Tracy McMillan, a TV writer, entitled "Why your not married". In this posting, which in my humble opinion is only good for use as toilet paper, Ms. McMillan puts the blame squarely on the woman bemoaning her "single" status and not on any other reasons. She goes on to list six reasons why "you're not married". These six reasons are: 1) you're a bitch, 2)you're a slut, 3) you're a liar, 4) you're shallow, 5) you're selfish or 6) you're not good enough.
I rather enjoyed Miss Ravitz's rebuttal to this so called "expert" of marital bliss who is incidentally thrice divorced. What struck me was that Miss Ravitz did not seem to mind that she was single. In fact she seemed to be loving the prospects. Miss Ravitz and I both have that in common. She was not bemoaning her single status and neither am I. In her article on CNN Miss Ravitz states, "Of course I'd love to meet and marry that one and only, but in the meantime I'm living my live and I'm taking everything that's been given me on the journey." That is a good attitude to have.
There are many reasons that people don't marry and all of them are entirely personal. Some simply prefer the single life. It does have it's advantages. For one, you can do what you want and go where you want on the weekends or for vacation without having to plan the details with your "significant other". You don't have to worry about sharing a bathroom with someone or arguing over one of the premier issues that married couples seem to argue over; money. Your money is your own and you can spend it how you want and on what you want. You can have the bed all to yourself and not have to worry about someone keeping you up during the night snoring or pulling the sheets off you. These may seem selfish and perhaps they are, but then again, to each their own.
Like Miss Ravitz, who mentions in her article that she is 41 years old, I am also in my 40's (45 to be exact). I have been single all my life and while I too would love to one day meet that special someone, I am not disappointed that I have not tied the proverbial knot yet. I was engaged once to a very nice woman and we are still good friends. Six months before we were to be married, we "came to our senses" as I refer to it before we made possibly the biggest mistake of our lives. Looking back on it, we were like night and day and our expectations were just too far apart. If we had gone all the way, our marriage would most likely have ended in divorce and that is one thing I never want to go through. I saw my parents go through a divorce. To this day, I don't know who of us, my mother or me was devastated worse by that divorce. I have seen friends go through divorces and some were rather nasty. My late father was twice married and twice divorced. A good friend of mine and my mother was twice married and twice divorced. Perhaps that is one reason why I have yet to marry. Be that as it may there is no shame in being single and jerks like Tracy McMillan should not make asinine assumptions about why someone is single. God willing I will meet that one and only special lady someday and God grant that if and when I do, it will be a truly blessed union. In the meantime, like Miss Ravitz I am going to enjoy being a "dirty old bachelor".
Today rather I read an interesting article on CNN.com of all places by CNN's own Jessica Ravitz. Her article is entitled "Why I'm not married (and it's not because I'm an angry slut)". In this article Miss Ravitz writes about a column posted on the Huffington Post by one Tracy McMillan, a TV writer, entitled "Why your not married". In this posting, which in my humble opinion is only good for use as toilet paper, Ms. McMillan puts the blame squarely on the woman bemoaning her "single" status and not on any other reasons. She goes on to list six reasons why "you're not married". These six reasons are: 1) you're a bitch, 2)you're a slut, 3) you're a liar, 4) you're shallow, 5) you're selfish or 6) you're not good enough.
I rather enjoyed Miss Ravitz's rebuttal to this so called "expert" of marital bliss who is incidentally thrice divorced. What struck me was that Miss Ravitz did not seem to mind that she was single. In fact she seemed to be loving the prospects. Miss Ravitz and I both have that in common. She was not bemoaning her single status and neither am I. In her article on CNN Miss Ravitz states, "Of course I'd love to meet and marry that one and only, but in the meantime I'm living my live and I'm taking everything that's been given me on the journey." That is a good attitude to have.
There are many reasons that people don't marry and all of them are entirely personal. Some simply prefer the single life. It does have it's advantages. For one, you can do what you want and go where you want on the weekends or for vacation without having to plan the details with your "significant other". You don't have to worry about sharing a bathroom with someone or arguing over one of the premier issues that married couples seem to argue over; money. Your money is your own and you can spend it how you want and on what you want. You can have the bed all to yourself and not have to worry about someone keeping you up during the night snoring or pulling the sheets off you. These may seem selfish and perhaps they are, but then again, to each their own.
Like Miss Ravitz, who mentions in her article that she is 41 years old, I am also in my 40's (45 to be exact). I have been single all my life and while I too would love to one day meet that special someone, I am not disappointed that I have not tied the proverbial knot yet. I was engaged once to a very nice woman and we are still good friends. Six months before we were to be married, we "came to our senses" as I refer to it before we made possibly the biggest mistake of our lives. Looking back on it, we were like night and day and our expectations were just too far apart. If we had gone all the way, our marriage would most likely have ended in divorce and that is one thing I never want to go through. I saw my parents go through a divorce. To this day, I don't know who of us, my mother or me was devastated worse by that divorce. I have seen friends go through divorces and some were rather nasty. My late father was twice married and twice divorced. A good friend of mine and my mother was twice married and twice divorced. Perhaps that is one reason why I have yet to marry. Be that as it may there is no shame in being single and jerks like Tracy McMillan should not make asinine assumptions about why someone is single. God willing I will meet that one and only special lady someday and God grant that if and when I do, it will be a truly blessed union. In the meantime, like Miss Ravitz I am going to enjoy being a "dirty old bachelor".
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